Don’t chase something you can’t change, control, or cure. It’s all good to invest energy into others- but there has to be a point where their toxic behaviors change. When they don’t- that’s the cue to change how you manage your involvement- if your invested time is 100% prayer only- then you’re still trying!! And God can move mountains through prayer! Let it be enough! Because it’s in His hands and not yours!
Don’t allow guilt to interfere. When people don’t like the consequences to their behaviors and choices- they want to hurt you and turn it around. You will get accused of abandoning them, leaving them alone, and not caring.
You are leaving the insanity of a situation that you’ve probably lived through for years. You are allowed to walk away and love from a distance. It’s the interaction that changes, not your love. They won’t like it, accept it, or understand. That’s not your problem or responsibility. They know why you’ve made the choice to step away- they just don’t like it.
Forgive- for your health and release. Forgiving doesn’t mean reconciliation. It’s another resource to protect your mental health and heart. It may be an every day occurrence- that’s ok. Holding onto their betrayal, abandonment, deceit, and abuse will only create anger for you. Don’t risk turning that anger inward and creating a deeper depression.
You matter. Your mental heath and heart matters. You have no control how they react or respond to your new boundaries- AND you are not responsible for their behavior and reaction. Let it go.