“If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”
We all remember the grade school social motto. If you are unfamiliar with those words, memorizes them! It is the precursor to reminding kid of kindness and consideration, both in action and in speech. While our culture aims to drive this lesson into the youth, I fear adults left the concept behind.
I admit to having low expectations in humanity these days. I have battled the human element for a long time in my life, and I have experienced my share of the evil. I describe my confrontations often, and share my personal journey with Christ into forgiveness, mercy, and grace. Satan came at me young, and as a tender child, abuse took from me something I will never get back. I came to terms with that long ago. Still, it leaves a bitter taste in my mouth.
I desire to be a positive person. My goal is to encourage and lift others when I can. On those days I have nothing, I dig deep to find something. You deserve that from me! Days are far from perfect, this is where being authentic comes in. I cannot hide the bad in hopes to emphasize my good. If you read Authentic Truths, you will find a splash of both.
Lately, as I work to find my positive through some difficult times, others seem determined to be negative. It is to a point when I feel it is best to pull back from sharing. We can do negative all day without the assistance of anyone else. Why in the world would I keep exposing myself to the letdown that comes from pessimistic attitudes?
It is the part of pulling back that I believe people fear. If I pull back, will they be offended? Will they know without my telling them why? Should I tell them why? Can I explain it if they ask? Though we carry loving concern for other’s feelings, consider your own feelings first. This is not selfish, it is cautious. For me, seeing my own attempts to be positive overshadowed by someone’s daily negative references, is not worth it. I understand your feelings matter, but hey, so do mine!
We live in a bold new world where people often forget basic manners. Where everyone has a right, but no responsibility in what they say. Unfortunately, social media brought a delusional world of power in opinion. You are free to say what you want, but you are not free from the consequence of what and how you say it. If you want to shout your opinion all day long, you may be the only one listening. I have no interest in negative thinking, so say something nice, uplifting, encouraging, or risk me tuning you out. Life is too short to use my time listening to nonsense, and I refuse to engage. So should you!
We are working through some serious stuff here. Mental health requires finding that delicate balance in areas most people never consider. When we are in tune with our illness, whatever it may be, we equip ourselves for the battles, big or small. Let me tell you, what is small to one may be bigger to another! Personally, I choose to deflect the power of negative words. They can bring me down like a ton of bricks tethered on my neck.. My mental health is important to me. Either you get that or you don’t, and whichever it is, has little effect on me.